Most guys wont admit that they don’t know how to ask a girl out. Asking a girl out can be the easiest thing in the world or it could be the most daunting, pit-stain-inducing thing you’ve every experienced in your entire life.
We all have read about how to ask girls out, from giving dropping tried-and-tested one liners that will surely have them swooning or giving them just a hint of nonchalant mystery that we all know no girl could resist. Here are a few tips on how to ask a girl out without sounding creepy or desperate.
Choose the girl who makes you comfortable.
Raised eyebrows often mean that you really did not think this would be the first advice you’d be getting. All the hot girls are intimidating and the last people in the world who can make you warm and fuzzy. However, even if you choose to go up to a really hot girl, you break the ice with a joke or two, and she laughs, like throws-her-head-back-and-snorts-in-delight laughs, then you can pretty much proceed with the asking out part.
A girl who can make you feel comfortable at the first moment of meeting you is someone you want to take out on a date. After all, you’re going to do the paying, so you might as well enjoy the company.
Have a pretty good reason for asking her out.
This trick is so simple, it’s almost too hard to understand why most guys forget to factor this in when they start dropping pick-up lines. When you ask a girl out, it has to be for a reason. You like to catch up, there’s a new show at the local theater, a new exhibit at the gallery just opened up.
This is where your skills will come in handy. You need to find out more about her, find out the places where she likes to eat, her hobbies, what books she reads. The information will prove useful when the time comes for you to rack your brain for a good excuse to have coffee.
Haven’t you noticed how easy it is to be witty and charming when you are with your buddies? This is because you really have nothing to prove when you are with them. Give her a short IM on Facebook, Snapchat, Viber, whatever. Tell her it’s been a long time since you talked, and ask her out to a cup of coffee. Done. You can forget about it and get back to work.
If she is available and says yes, then great. If not, then you move on to the next interesting girl who would take you up on that offer for free coffee. Being too emotional about one request for a date won’t do you any good, since women have the uncanny ability to smell desperation on a guy, so keep it cool.
There are so many tips and tricks you can use if you do not know the first thing about how to ask a girl out. More great resources for men can be found online. However, being comfortable and having a solid reason why you want to spend more time with her can get you there faster than any other mind control trick out there.
Zero in on the girl who makes you feel the slightest bit comfortable, be charming as you can, be interested and you’ll eventually have her on your arm in no time.